Do you feel the need to hide your pornography consumption or sexual behaviors?
Do you feel that sexual thoughts or behaviors are controlling you?
Have you ever paid or exchanged gifts for sexual services of any kind?
Are your current sexual habits affecting your personal relationships?
Whether it's just a friend, pastor, mentor or a counselor we need to start by talking about this. Shame of compulsive pornography viewing or compulsive sexual behavior thrive in darkness and sharing with someone else begins the process of opening the windows to let light in so that we can begin cleaning up the mess our addiction has created.
Sex addiction or compulsive behaviors are overwhelmingly powerful and our lives have demonstrated that we are powerless to change on our own. We need others who can provide non-judgmental support and guidance to show us how to change. Counseling is an excellent place to start because it is private and professional. Support groups are an excellent way to supplement counseling and help us develop courage to trust others who have been through addictions and accelerate positive change in our lives.
Once you have the power of human connection, trust, support, and encouragement motivating you to change from steps #1 and #2, you can accelerate and fortify your change further by educating yourself on your behaviors. There are massive biological, emotional, spiritual, and relational implications of compulsive behaviors that profoundly impact our lives and the lives of those around us. Learning how our thinking and past experiences have influenced our current habits enables us to understand how we can think and behave differently to change our lives for the better.
Therapists who are likely to be effective in treating and/or assessing and providing treatment recommendations/referrals for individuals struggling with compulsive sexual behaviors may have expertise in general addiction counseling and/or other evidence-based treatments such as Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Cognitive Behavioral Therapy; Dialectical Behavior Therapy; Motivational Enhancement Therapy
Sex Addicts Anonymous: "A Fellowship of men and women who share their experience, strength, and hope with each other so they may overcome their sexual addiction and help others to recover from sexual addiction or dependency"
Fortify: Online Support Community to support you while you quit pornography consumption
When I was stuck in the middle of my sex addiction, I always felt like I was carrying a 100 pound burden on my back everywhere I went. I was always looking over my shoulder wondering when my secret would be found out. After I confessed and began to work through everything in counseling and in a support group, my marriage became more fulfi
When I was stuck in the middle of my sex addiction, I always felt like I was carrying a 100 pound burden on my back everywhere I went. I was always looking over my shoulder wondering when my secret would be found out. After I confessed and began to work through everything in counseling and in a support group, my marriage became more fulfilling than I imagined it could be, I felt a sense of freedom I’d never experienced before, and my whole life changed for the better.
-- Anonymous
I remember the first time. I remember the destruction that it lead to so many years later. Rubble that I still sift through every day. Wrongs that I can't right and questions that have no answers. Through God's grace those mistakes were erased, questions were answered and mercy poured out daily. I was lost in a sea of desires but God
I remember the first time. I remember the destruction that it lead to so many years later. Rubble that I still sift through every day. Wrongs that I can't right and questions that have no answers. Through God's grace those mistakes were erased, questions were answered and mercy poured out daily. I was lost in a sea of desires but God has delivered me. My loved ones are still scarred but love me and give praise to the One who delivered me. I have found something that deserves my devotion and it's not my sex addiction anymore.
--Anonymous
Who am I? I’m your average guy who grew up without a consistent father. Due to the lack of love, it was only a matter of time before the screen began to call my name. You see in my moments of weakness and desire for affirmation, I sought those things that I knew would not please me. For 20 years, almost which all of it being in Los Angele
Who am I? I’m your average guy who grew up without a consistent father. Due to the lack of love, it was only a matter of time before the screen began to call my name. You see in my moments of weakness and desire for affirmation, I sought those things that I knew would not please me. For 20 years, almost which all of it being in Los Angeles took me down a path that led me to wearing a mask. I thought I could control it but the porn addictions got worse and worse until I was paying escorts. All the while I was in church only wearing a mask. Time began to fade and I finally saw the light. I sought help and recovery. I realized I was a slave. It’s been a while but I’m now further along in my recovery than ever. There are still struggles at times but now I’m engaged in war moment by moment determined through the power of Christ. His love for me is my rock and anchor. I hope you will reach out too if your struggling. There is hope and help.
--Anonymous
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